I’ve never really been one to make New Year Resolutions and if I have, I’ve certainly never kept up with any of them. I think that at the beginning of the year, when we feel we are getting a fresh start on things, it’s easy of us (or at least for me anyway) to feel the need to create all these lofty expectations for ourselves, “this is going to be the year I lose ‘x’ amount of weight”, “this year I am finally going to do ‘blank”, etc. And we really do start off with good intentions, but often times I think we set ourselves up for failure because we try to do too much.
So this year, when I sat down to think about where I am in my life right now, instead of coming up with a bunch of tasks for myself, I thought about things that I could do that would make my life easier. We are still in that adjusting to 2 kids phase right now and let me tell you, things are not always easy. After giving my full attention to Brynlee for the last 3 1/2 years, I am now constantly feeling like I am neglecting one of my children whenever I am tending to the needs of the other. Mom guilt is real and it is no fun!
And so, here are the three things I came up with to help make things easier on myself and hopefully make me a better wife, mama and friend.
- Get organized- If I thought I had mom brain after having Brynlee, it is nothing compared to what I have now. I swear my brain has just up and left my head completely, which let me just say, is not a good feeling. I’ve never been much of a planner user, ironically I buy one every year and then use it sporadically throughout the year, but most of the time I just try to keep track of things in my head. Well, I don’t think that is an option anymore, so I did some research on planners and found this one that I really think will work out best for my needs. I really like the layout and so far (3 weeks into the year) it’s been working out great! I also need to get organized around my house and with our schedule. I have very little time to waste these days so anything that is taking extra time where is shouldn’t, needs to go. Mornings when I have to take Brynlee to school are extremely hectic so I need to make some changes, like showering and setting out all of our clothes the night before, so we don’t have quite so many things to do in the morning and I end up am running out the door forgetting to eat, which as a nursing mama is not a good thing…
- Take more me time- when I take the time to take care of myself I am a much better wife and mama. I need time to be creative, it has been way too long since I’ve sat at my sewing machine. I need time to be social, being a stay at home mom can get extremely lonely and as an extrovert, that’s difficult for me. And I need to take better care of myself, often times us moms tend to put ourselves last (see “forgetting to eat” above”), but it is so important that we take the time to focus on ourselves too.
- Random Acts of Kindness- At this past Thanksgiving with my family we started a new tradition, everyone brought items to create bags for the homeless. Then after dinner, we sat down with all the kids, explained what we were doing and had them help us fill them. They really enjoyed putting them together and it reminded me how good it feels to give and help others. Brynlee is now at an age where she understands things like this and I really want to teach her to have a compassionate and giving heart. So at least once a month I want to take her to perform Random Acts of Kindness (RAOK) with me, this will not only give us some special time together (and hopefully help with some of that mom guilt), but it will teach her how doing kind things for others makes feel good too. I’m hoping this is a tradition that we can have for many years and bring Lincoln in on it when he is older too.
So, what are some of your goals for 2017, are you a resolution setter/keeper or are you more like me and just need to find some things to make your life easier?